Riding the Wave: A Yoga Inquiry into Midlife and Beyond

An invitation to people in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond—and the teachers who guide them.

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Menopause is a transition that unfolds over time.

For many of us, it begins quietly in our late 30s or early 40s—long before we would use the word “menopause” to describe ourselves. (It’s telling, though, that if you get pregnant after age 35, they used to call it a “geriatric” pregnancy, now at least they’ve softened the stigma to “advanced maternal age” (AMA).) 

Clinically, menopause is defined as the 366th day after your last menstrual period. But the years—before and after—surrounding that day? That’s where the real story lives.

And here’s the part we really don’t talk about enough:

This change affects 100% of people with ovaries, regardless of whether we’ve had children.

Yet most of us were never taught what to expect.

The Symptoms Are Real

The late reproductive stage and peri-menopause—which can begin 4–10 years or more before your final period—may include:

  • Irregular or heavier cycles

  • Hot flashes or night sweats

  • Insomnia

  • Anxiety, irritability, or low mood

  • Brain fog and forgetfulness

  • Vaginal dryness or urinary urgency

  • Lower libido

  • Breast tenderness

  • Joint pain and stiffness

For some, this transition is smooth. For others, it is destabilizing.

Culturally? It’s often dismissed.

We support puberty as a rite of passage. Menopause? Not so much.

Instead, we’re handed narratives of decline, invisibility, fragility. Or we’re offered quick fixes, miracle supplements, or vague spiritual platitudes.

What if we did something different?

What if we opened a real conversation—an inquiry grounded in yoga’s frameworks?

Pain, Fascia, and the Changing Body

For some of us, perimenopause isn’t about heat—it’s mainly about pain.

Hip pain. Shoulder pain. Stiffness. A body that feels unfamiliar.

Emerging research from scientists like Dr. Carla Stecco shows that deep fascia contains estrogen receptors. As estrogen fluctuates and declines, collagen organization and tissue glide change.

Translation?

Tissues can become less hydrated, less adaptable, more sensitive.

Add long-standing hypermobility—so common in yoga communities—and the picture becomes more complex.

Treating isolated joints isn’t enough. A whole-system approach matters.

Yoga—applied skillfully—can support load transfer, adaptability, and nervous system regulation.

But only if we stop pretending aging isn’t happening.

This Is Not a Breakdown. It’s a Threshold.

The word menopause comes from the Greek men (month) and pausis (pause)—the end of the monthly cycle.

This pause is not a failure of the system. It is a profound biological shift. A recalibration across body, mind, and identity.

And because human lifespan has nearly doubled in the last century, many of us will live30–40 years after menopause

That’s not an ending. That’s an entire chapter of life.

Yoga philosophy frames this as a movement toward elderhood—a transition toward wisdom. Not in a woo-woo, incense-and-platitudes way. But in a grounded, lived, embodied way.

We are entering a stage of deeper discernment.

That can be empowering. It can also be confronting.

Why Yoga Has to Be Part of This Conversation

Most 200-hour teacher training programs spend significant time on prenatal modifications—and very little, if anything, on what happens at the other end of the reproductive lifespan.

And yet every single one of us will age.

Many practitioners quietly step away from yoga during perimenopause because the practice that once supported them no longer fits their nervous system, sleep patterns, joints, or bones. They assume they’ve failed—or that yoga no longer works.

But yoga is not just a set of poses. It is a system of principles applied to the human condition.

And aging is the human condition.

Bones, Fear, and Misinformation

By age 30, we’ve built nearly all the bone we’ll ever have. 

In the seven years after menopause, we can lose up to 20% of bone mineral density due to estrogen decline. 

And then many of us are told, vaguely: 

“Don’t twist.”
“Don’t forward fold.”
“Be careful!” 

This fear-based messaging often comes from well-meaning professionals who don’t understand yoga’s frameworks—or from yoga teachers who defer entirely to rehabilitation models.

Yoga can be informed by science without being subsumed by it.

We need nuance. Not panic.

A Multi-Dimensional View: The Pañcamaya Model

Yoga does not view our human system as just muscles and bones or hormones and tissues.

Through the pañcamaya model, we recognize five interwoven dimensions:

  1. Annamaya—Physical structure 

  2. Prāṇamaya—Physiology and breath

  3. Manomaya—Thought patterns

  4. Vijñāñamaya—Behavior and identity

  5. Ānandamaya—Emotional experience

Menopause touches all of these.

  • Hormonal shifts influence fascia and collagen.

  • Estrogen decline impacts bone density.

  • Sleep disruption alters cognition.

  • Nervous system dysregulation affects digestion.

  • Cultural narratives shape our identity.

This experience is not just about hot flashes.

It’s about relationship—to your body, your partner, your children, your aging parents, your work, your sexuality, your time, your mortality.

This stage of life asks deeper questions.

The Invisible Load of Midlife

Menopause doesn’t happen in isolation.

You may be:

  • Parenting children 

  • Launching adult children

  • Caring for aging parents

  • Navigating intimacy shifts

  • Managing a career — or retirement

  • Questioning identity

All while your body is changing.

No wonder it can feel overwhelming.

Or—if your transition has been smooth—quietly disorienting.

Where do we talk about this honestly?

An Invitation

Join me for a one-day immersive workshop—Riding the Wave: Yoga for the Stages of Menopause

This workshop is for:

  • People in their late reproductive years, perimenopause, or post-menopause

  • Those in their 30s and 40s who are beginning to notice subtle or pronounced shifts

  • Those in their 50s, 60s, and beyond who are navigating life after the final period

  • Yoga teachers who want to better understand and support students through these stages of life

This is not a quick fix.
And it is not a promise to eliminate symptoms.

It is a space to:

  • Recognize what is changing

  • Understand what is happening physiologically and systemically

  • Build resilience in body and mind

  • Cultivate discernment in a sea of information

  • Stay in relationship with yoga as you age

Please bring your own snack — we'll pause mid-afternoon for community connection time.

Bring a journal.
Bring your questions.
Bring your lived experience.

We will explore:

  • Sleep and restoration

  • Bone health without fear-based messaging

  • Fascial adaptability and mobility

  • Pain and hypermobility

  • Nervous system regulation

  • Discernment in the sea of menopause remedies

  • Identity shifts and family dynamics 

  • The power of pause

And perhaps most importantly: community.

Because aging is universal.
Because these stages deserve nuance, not stigma.
Because none of us should navigate it in isolation.

You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to ride them.

Aging is change.
Everything changes.

Let’s practice being with that—together.

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